Love, in its truest sense, is not an emotion.
It is a state of being.
A state where the boundary between “you” and “me” dissolves, and what remains is pure awareness, presence, and acceptance.
In the Hindu scriptures, love was never meant to be loud. It was meant to be true.
The Upanishads offer a profound insight:
“?tmanastu k?m?ya sarva? priya? bhavati”
– We love not for the sake of the other, but for the sake of the Self within.
In essence, love is not about possession.
It is recognition.
Seeing yourself in another.
And the other in yourself.
Somewhere along the way, we diluted this sacred idea.
Movies romanticised love.
Poetry dramatised it.
Cupid turned it into an arrow.
Valentine turned it into a product.
Today, love is often reduced to chemistry, attraction, validation and constant excitement.
A performance. A role.
A carefully curated version of who we think we should be to be loved.
And that’s where most love stories quietly begin to decay.
Because performance is exhausting.
You can pretend for a while.
You can impress for a season.
But you cannot perform for a lifetime.
Eventually, what remains is adjustment.
Compromise. Suppression.
Silent expectations.
And slowly, love – which was meant to liberate – becomes a source of suffering.
As Carl Jung said,
“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of the parent.”
The same applies to relationships.
The greatest burden in love is the unlived version of yourself.
True love is not about being liked.
It’s about being seen.
Seen in your silence.
Understood in your chaos.
Accepted without masks.
True love is when someone doesn’t fall for your personality, but resonates with your essence.
When you don’t need to edit your thoughts.
When you don’t have to manage your emotions.
When your fears don’t scare them away.
And your truth doesn’t threaten their comfort.
Love should liberate.
Love should help you evolve.
Love should make you better without making you smaller.
Love should reconnect you with your true self.
Not demand that you abandon it.
Love is peace, not pressure.
Presence, not performance.
Alignment, not adjustment.
Love is spending hours in conversation without realising time passed.
Love is sitting in silence and still feeling deeply connected.
Love is when someone looks at you and knows how you’re feeling –
without you saying a word.
Because the deepest form of communication doesn’t happen through language.
It happens through energy.
At the soul level.
And when love reaches that frequency,
it stops being about romance.
It becomes about oneness where there is no “you and me”, only “we”.